Relationships
hey guys,
i'm sorry i haven't blogged in a while hey, but i've been quite busy with everything else ><>.> unfortunately; i guess that means that i'm like completely bogged down by work (as most of you who read this blog would also be). but not to fear, i guess i've found a little bit of time (in between psychology and calculus) to write a bit about something interesting.
Relationships. Hahaha, those who know me well will know that i'm more than just interested in this topic; if i had to name one of my themes in life, it would be relationships. i know that alot of people differ in where they place their emphasis on life, for some people it is more self focused, for others it is more focused on others, for others yet it may be focused on i dont know, objects around them? =\
I guess the question that comes first into mind is why do people differ so much? and honestly i cant answer you. "The heart has its reasons that reason itself does not know" - pascal 1678. (blame psychology).
This is a photo taken on my cuz's very cool camera. To others it may seem like just a happy shot; but look a bit closer and let's identify some things in this photo that underly. For example, the amount of relationships here. a few off the top of my head, we have boyfriend/girlfriend, we have cousins, we have siblings, we have friends, and we have best friends.
Imagine if one more person were added in there. Say aunty Ina (ken's mum). We would then have a few extra relationship links established wouldn't we? Aunty/nephew. Aunty/Niece . Mum/daughter. Mum/son. Interesting isn't it?(haha i can see you rolling your eyes xD)
But what significance do relationships have? i mean, what's the difference between somebody who has multiple relationships and is therefore defined as 'popular' (although i have no belief in that term) and somebody who has no relationships and is defined as 'loner' (again..no belief in ther term). I guess many could arguably say that the difference is not much.
A friend once told me that life is what you make it, as a function of who you are. (to be honest i still dont exactly understand it xD) but i guess that it means you determine how you'll live your life; as you should live it- because you are you, and nobody else. Did that make sense?
Relationships mean alot to me. I guess as a function of who i am, it makes sense doesn't it? I'm a very dependant person; emotionally especially. I like to rely on alot of my friends to share my good times, and to share my bad times (sorry guys XD). As a result, i naturally draw people close to me through experiences that we go through. It's not special, if you're that type of person, it just happens. Good? bad?
It does have it's bad sides. When you find yourself with nobody to turn to, or nobody to talk to? Yeah you're left stranded and you sometimes feel very lonely. But thank God i have amazingly awesome friends (and i know it very well) that wouldnt turn me down even if i asked them to.
To be honest, i love it. I love having people there, i love sharing things with people, i love depending on people, i love helping people. It doesn't make me an extrovert, but rather makes me less of an introvert. (which i hope makes sense, but somebody smart will probably disprove me XD keep reading Ken... xP)
It's just the way God made me. Just like God createdloners i mean independant people (i'm joking xD). In all seriousness though; there are people who i envy for the amount of personal strength they have. They can manage a problem i would consider relatively significant without even telling a single soul; save perhaps God. Sometimes i acknowledge this isn't good.....but at the same time, i guess i generally notice that these people can control the extent to which their problems get to them. Which is a 'trait' i could only wish i had.
Of course to an extent i'm stereotyping. There are people who are dependant and yet also extremely independant. Dont ask me how it works, because i dont know.
But i do know something, and that's no matter who you are; what type of person you are; you're important. It doesn't matter if only 5 people, or 50 people can say you're important; if one person can say you're imporant to them. Then you are, important.
So the next time you look at a picture; think about what it means, not just what it shows.
Fin~
p.s all the wonderful pictures were taken by my cuz. (ok, the camera was positioned by her)
i'm sorry i haven't blogged in a while hey, but i've been quite busy with everything else ><>.> unfortunately; i guess that means that i'm like completely bogged down by work (as most of you who read this blog would also be). but not to fear, i guess i've found a little bit of time (in between psychology and calculus) to write a bit about something interesting.
Relationships. Hahaha, those who know me well will know that i'm more than just interested in this topic; if i had to name one of my themes in life, it would be relationships. i know that alot of people differ in where they place their emphasis on life, for some people it is more self focused, for others it is more focused on others, for others yet it may be focused on i dont know, objects around them? =\
I guess the question that comes first into mind is why do people differ so much? and honestly i cant answer you. "The heart has its reasons that reason itself does not know" - pascal 1678. (blame psychology).
This is a photo taken on my cuz's very cool camera. To others it may seem like just a happy shot; but look a bit closer and let's identify some things in this photo that underly. For example, the amount of relationships here. a few off the top of my head, we have boyfriend/girlfriend, we have cousins, we have siblings, we have friends, and we have best friends.
Imagine if one more person were added in there. Say aunty Ina (ken's mum). We would then have a few extra relationship links established wouldn't we? Aunty/nephew. Aunty/Niece . Mum/daughter. Mum/son. Interesting isn't it?(haha i can see you rolling your eyes xD)
But what significance do relationships have? i mean, what's the difference between somebody who has multiple relationships and is therefore defined as 'popular' (although i have no belief in that term) and somebody who has no relationships and is defined as 'loner' (again..no belief in ther term). I guess many could arguably say that the difference is not much.
A friend once told me that life is what you make it, as a function of who you are. (to be honest i still dont exactly understand it xD) but i guess that it means you determine how you'll live your life; as you should live it- because you are you, and nobody else. Did that make sense?
Relationships mean alot to me. I guess as a function of who i am, it makes sense doesn't it? I'm a very dependant person; emotionally especially. I like to rely on alot of my friends to share my good times, and to share my bad times (sorry guys XD). As a result, i naturally draw people close to me through experiences that we go through. It's not special, if you're that type of person, it just happens. Good? bad?
It does have it's bad sides. When you find yourself with nobody to turn to, or nobody to talk to? Yeah you're left stranded and you sometimes feel very lonely. But thank God i have amazingly awesome friends (and i know it very well) that wouldnt turn me down even if i asked them to.
To be honest, i love it. I love having people there, i love sharing things with people, i love depending on people, i love helping people. It doesn't make me an extrovert, but rather makes me less of an introvert. (which i hope makes sense, but somebody smart will probably disprove me XD keep reading Ken... xP)
It's just the way God made me. Just like God created
Of course to an extent i'm stereotyping. There are people who are dependant and yet also extremely independant. Dont ask me how it works, because i dont know.
But i do know something, and that's no matter who you are; what type of person you are; you're important. It doesn't matter if only 5 people, or 50 people can say you're important; if one person can say you're imporant to them. Then you are, important.
So the next time you look at a picture; think about what it means, not just what it shows.
Fin~
p.s all the wonderful pictures were taken by my cuz. (ok, the camera was positioned by her)